Chapter Twenty-One: first two weeks of July
At the end of my first week on Skyros I sat down and wrote myself a letter for delivery a few weeks into the future. It was something they encouraged at the centre, to keep the afterglow of the experience alive a little longer after their guests had re-entered the normal world. “My obsession with Iryna left me largely after a couple of days,” I wrote, “and I think that it is best if I leave that alone. I do not know what relationship is possible between me and her so I should not stir that hornet’s nest.”
“I have had communications from Carmen,” I went on, “which are loving and caring. It has been a surprise how this relationship which started out as something purely sexual and very guarded (particularly on her side) has turned into something more genuine. I should think more about that and less about Iryna.”
I moved up to the town to spend a solo week sitting by the sea and exploring the island on a moped. A few other people from the centre had done the same thing, so initially I was not alone. Through the week I talked a lot with Carmen, arranging to see her as soon as I got back. The turmoil in her life moved up another notch when she gave notice to her employers. They wanted her to cater for them in the holidays at their house in the country, sharing accommodation with the nanny. This she could not do, as it would jeopardise her ability to manage her Airbnb bookings in London: besides, it betrayed an underlying attitude of regarding her as a servant rather than as the professional chef that she was. She had her pride. So she quit, leaving just a couple of weeks to work out her notice before she would need to find a new job.
She was getting cold feet about the date she had arranged with me upon my return. On the surface I wanted to be accommodating, but underneath I felt rejected: like I was a burden to her rather than a source of strength. “I am so disappointed,” I wrote, “that Carmen has bailed on me even though I had some anxieties about her visit…the truth is that this is one relationship that is going nowhere and has the potential to get in the way of any genuine relationship I am likely to form.” She, my friend, had just given notice, was going to have to find a new job, had cancelled her annual holiday in Spain to her elderly mother’s great upset, all the time juggling short term lettings to make her rent – and yet somehow I made this all about me. I don’t know what, other than isolation and a touch of loneliness, brought about this shift in my mood. However, I was once again obsessing a lot about my relationship with Iryna. After an exchange of emails with her I realised I wasn’t feeling too good. I was sitting at a cafe in the harbour, waiting for my ferry back to Athens.
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A couple of weeks before, the day I had left, I learned that it would be Carmen’s birthday (47) over the weekend, and managed to arrange for a card to reach her in the nick of time.
“Rob, thanks so much for the nice card. I was so happy… when I opened I think my face was like a little girl! !!! Thanks my love, the nicest surprise after time. Don’t forget to be open to new experiences. .. I’m looking forward to hear about your experience when you come back.”
She thought that I was likely to encounter plenty of surplus sexual energy, and was genuinely keen that I should take advantage of it. Although I had spent much of the week lusting after one woman in particular, the fact was that I had made no progress with her or anyone else: perhaps I should have spent more time in the bar. It was not a place for no-strings fun along the lines that Carmen envisaged, or me for that matter. They were couples types, looking to pair bond.
Often, when I could get a signal, I would find a message waiting from Carmen and we talked at considerable length on some days.
“Next year if we are still friends (sure yes) I would like to do a small trip with you…maybe to go for a weekend to Rome, amazing amazing amazing city, classic art everywhere! !!! Or a weekend sailing along the canal!”
“Yes! I’m a good person to travel with. That would be real fun.”
“Today I was talking with my friends about my experiences on Tinder.”
“I am interested in this too! I like that our sexual appetites are similar. As a man I did not get as many matches as you would being female. A horny girl can really take her pick I think.”
“…yes … but the connection is unusual. I like your open mind. Some man don’t understand. Or prefer the stereotypes.”
“I found that many of the people at the centre were not that open, they are obsessed with one particular type of relationship. And yes men can be possessive. I think maybe people fall back on the stereotypes because they do not have the confidence to try something different. It has been so good for me to meet someone such as yourself. I hoped that women like you existed but I could not be sure as I had not actually met one. Now I have!”
“Thanks adorable Rob. It makes me happy to think that exist people like you. I am counting the days when we will meet again.”
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Another twenty four hours after my wobbly moment at the port, Carmen had recovered her enthusiasm for an early reunion with me, and so we made it happen. I drove straight home from the airport and she caught an afternoon train, just as we had planned a week earlier before I knew anything about her problems with her job. As it was high summer and light well into the evening I gave her a choice: eat and then walk, or walk and then eat. She went for the second option.
As we were about to set off said, “Rob, can I drive please? I need to practice driving English-style in a manual car”. It turned out she had only ever driven an automatic in England, and thought it might be good for her job search not to be limited to this. I had no hesitation in letting her take the driver’s seat, and she drove fast and confidently to the woods where we took our walk. A few years before, I reminisced, I had coached Iryna to upgrade her licence from automatic to manual, and I had taught both my offspring the basics of driving without any serious incidents. Perhaps I had missed my vocation.
The woods were quiet and largely empty of people at this time, the sun slanting through the trees and the warm air. Taking a side track we stopped at random and found a place to fuck, standing up: she wanted it from the back as usual and I was happy to oblige. As we bent to pull clothes back up we found a crop of wild strawberries around our feet which we picked and ate. By the time we got home it was late, but we sat down to eat the various raw foods that she had brought with her. It was only later still, in bed, that we discovered that Carmen had been bitten quite badly on the backside by midges in the forest. She must have been sensitive to it, I suppose: some people are, or have sweet blood that is attractive to the insects. But she was not the type to complain, and I found her some soothing cream in my cupboard.
“Thanks for coming. I had a lovely time with you. I love your company and I love the sex. I hope it was relaxing for you too. I think so. I love the way we cook and eat.
“Was great and great and great! Next time a we’ll do a new recipe! A raw recipe.”